The second principle of no-excuse self-promotion, according to I’d Rather Be in the Studio is:
Connections are critical to your success. To succeed, you must make an effort to meet new people and to maintain relationships.
But not all connections are equal. Some connections can be detrimental to your art, your emotional well-being, and your growth.
When you are successful, not everyone will be happy for you. This can be scary.
Some people prefer that you stay the same. Other artists might become jealous.
They are uncomfortable witnessing your increased recognition and income. They might even be threatened that you are playing a bigger game – especially if it means that you are finding new friends.
You aren’t conforming to their tiny idea of what an artist’s life should be like.
Beware of these poisonous relationships and don’t allow your success to be defined by the limitations others put on you.
Think about the people you spend the most time with. When you leave their presence, do you feel good about yourself and your future? If not, you have an obligation to do something about it.
You must do what you can to protect your self-worth, your momentum, your energy, and your vision.
If you belong to an artist organization where members complain about marketing, get out!
You do not want to be the only person in the room dragging everyone along. This is draining. You will either burn out or, worse, succumb to their way of thinking.
If your artist friends are blaming their lack of success on the economy, get new artist friends!
The chances are good that they will never accept responsibility for their actions and, therefore, never expand.
If family members try to hold you back with their pessimistic outlook, set boundaries!
Tell them which topics are off limits and that you will only discuss your art career if they can be encouraging.
You may still love these people, but you don’t have to spend the majority of your time with them.
Fill your calendar with positive, supportive people who seek to improve their lives while making the world a better place to live. Before you know it, you won’t have any time remaining for the naysayers.