—Julia Child in Julie & Julia
We all know how I feel about excuses. I wrote a whole book to help you get past excuses for not promoting your art. So let’s deal with the rest of this quote.
You might think the first part is off base and that you should apologize for things you have done wrong. You’d be right. You absolutely should!
But the context of this quote was Julia talking about apologizing for imperfect food preparation. It’s akin to showing your art to someone and apologizing for the framing. Or inviting people to see your website, but apologizing because it’s not quite what you’d like for it to be. Stop and think again before apologizing for these imperfections.
My husband says I’m frequently apologizing to dinner guests for my imperfect food preparation. He’s right that this is bad form. The guests think I did less than my best for them and I focus on what’s not there instead of what is there. Mostly, everyone would be more than happy with the yummy food. They would never know what I know if I didn’t tell them. Their minds would never go to what it could have been.
You look less self-confident when you apologize for everything you do that is imperfect. I think that’s what Julia is trying to get at with this quote.
Don’t dwell on it and call attention to it! Accept that it is what it is or fix it, redo it, move on.